Crying in H Mart & Ghost Forest – grief, family, identity

By coincidence, I picked up two books with almost identical themes and narrative. One is nonfiction, the other fiction. If I hadn’t known in advance, I couldn’t have told you which was which. Both are written in first person and both audiobooks are narrated by the author herself.

Crying in H Mart by Michelle Zauner

Michelle Zauner is the lead singer and song writer in the band Japanese Breakfast, which was recently nominated for two Grammys. One might be sceptical, when a celebrity in her 20s publishes her memoir. However, there isn’t a hint of glamour in Crying in H Mart, although we do hear about the early beginnings of Japanese Breakfast.

Mostly, the memoir focuses on the complex relationship between Michelle and her mother and how the family tries to cope with her mother dying of cancer. It’s honest and brutal and I wouldn’t recommend reading it, if you are not feeling on top yourself.

Food is a central theme throughout the book. When Michelle grew up, she envied the other kids, who had “mommy-moms”. These moms fussed about their kids and gave them comfort and praise. Michelle’s mother screamed at her, when she got hurt and criticised her every move, trying to make her better. But she showed how much she cared through food. After her passing away, Michelle tried to keep the memory of her mother and her half Korean identity alive by cooking Korean dishes. This memoir will probably make you sad, but I bet it will also make you hungry.

Rating: 4 out of 5.
Title: The Crying in H Mart [2021] 
Author: Michelle Zauner 
Format: Audiobook, narrated by Michelle Zauner
Genre: Memoir

Ghost Forest by Pik-Shuen Fung

Michelle Zauner grew up in the US, but she often travelled to Seul to visit her mother’s Korean family. The protagonist in Ghost Forest has her roots in Hong Kong, but she immigrates to Canada with her mother and sister, while her father stays in Hong Kong to work. Like Michelle Zauner, the protagonist travels between two countries and struggles to unify her two cultures and identities.

Similar to Crying in H Mart, the narrative is centred around the death of a parent, in this case the father. We hear about the illness leading up to his death and the grief afterwards. In both books there is the struggle of dealing with the criticism and lack of acceptance from the dying parent.

With its short vignettes and simple, beautiful prose, Ghost Forest was a joy to read. On balance, I preferred it to Crying in H Mart. However, it was very short and may not be particularly memorable. Time will show.

Rating: 4 out of 5.

Title: Ghost Forest [2021] 
Author: Pik-Shuen Fung
Format: Audiobook, narrated by Pik-Shuen Fung
Genre: Contemporary Fiction

32 comments

    • Ghost Forest is definitely worth a read, but I would suggest not reading it too close to Crying in H Mart, since you might get a sense of deja vu.

  1. Hi. Michelle Zauner has gotten a good amount of press in the Philadelphia region. That’s because she lives in or near Philly (I’m in the Philly burbs). Her band is popular around here. They sell out shows easily. It’s really something that she also is a very good writer.

  2. My nickname is Martie. However, people who know me well call me Mart. At first glance, I thought the book was about me. LOL

    • 😆 Haha, it must be interesting to share (nick)name with a big supermarket chain!

    • Yes, that was a redeeming feature of her mother. I hope not all Korean mothers are quite so harsh, but I believe her behaviour was at least partly rooted in her culture and upbringing.

    • Just don’t read them close to each other, since there are quite a few similarities. But both are very readable.

    • Thanks Margaret. They were both enjoyable, but Ghost Forest is a lot shorter and perhaps the writing is better as well.

  3. I loved Crying in H Mart. Really like the sound of Ghost Forest by your review. I’ve just checked to see if my Overdrive has it available and it does so I’ll put it on my wish list! 🙂

  4. Kismet. I just finished Crying in H Mart too and reviewed it on 4/12. We think alike, ha. It’s a pretty sad one, & has much Korean food in it! But I havent heard of Ghost Forest … so I’ll have to see if my library has it. hmmm cheers!

    • Thanks Lashaan! 😊 I love books which include food even if they make me hungry.

  5. Been wanting to read Crying in H Mart. Maybe in the near future. Glad you enjoyed both, especially Ghost Forest! Great mini reviews, stargazer!

    • Crying in H Mart is definitely worth a read. It took me by surprise though, how many similarities there were to Ghost Forest. Thanks!

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